YOUR MARITAL HEALTH/OWNING AND OPERATING YOUR OWN SEX CLINIC: STAFFING THE CLINIC
We never realized it until now, but we never took time to choose our sexual life-style. It just happened to us.
HUSBAND
You will need two “sexperts” for this sex clinic—you and your partner, the experts on your sexuality. The expert on your spouse is your spouse. And the expert on you is you. Each of you must take full responsibility for “your” patient in this clinic. Your patient is you.
You have already taken major steps toward the training of your staff. You have studied the history of sexuality, analyzed your sexual system, and learned a new model of human sexual response. As training continues, add to the records you have kept for the opportunities at the end of each chapter. Make up your own audio “sex tapes” in your private place. Listen to them altogether as a follow-up to your clinic program.
Training the staff depends on getting the staff in shape. If you have not had a recent physical exam, schedule one now with a doctor you trust. Tell the doctor that you both want a physical and want him or her to do it with both of you present. All health is a system, so there is no reason to go for medical checkups alone. Make sure the doctor schedules a feedback session to tell you both about the physical exam results and to plan healthy changes that may be needed, changes you can make together. Doctors complain that patients often fail to comply with their recommendations for healthy living. One reason for low compliance is the medical establishment’s insistence on an individual focus when changes can be made only within a system.
Two more steps are needed to train the staff. First, you must get some mutual exercise. From now on, every day of your life, rain, snow, or sun, walk together for twenty minutes holding hands. This one simple step was one of the most popular activities for the couples in the clinic. “I found out that we just never made time to be together. That simple walk has become a part of us.” Be sure to leave the dog and kids at home. This is a marital walk, not a family parade.
Lasdy, not only are you what you eat but you also may have sex related in part to what and how you eat. Of all physical functions, eating is one human function that seems to be related closely to sexuality. Researchers are learning that problems with sex can result in eating problems and the reverse also seems to be true. Both sex and eating have to do with timing, taste, feelings, self- and body esteem, pleasure, and general physical, emotional, and interactional health.
Caffeine, cigarettes, and sugar are not good for sex. All of these alter the metabolism in the direction of disruption and/or depression and all have impact on the neurohormonal system. Eating a low-fat, low-preservative, high-fiber diet is not only good health, but it positively affects sexual response. Kenneth Pelletier, in his book Longevity, presents evidence relating good health to longevity and continued sexual activity. The patients in the clinic who neglected sound health practices, particularly if they abused alcohol or other substances, had the most difficulty correcting their sex problems. Actually, there is no such thing as “sexual health,” for health is an all-inclusive term for the way we live and love.
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